Hi all, not a technical post today but more food for thought. I’m going to relate it mainly to career progression but to be honest it applies to all aspects of life (Get me being deep! )
Anyway . . .
So, the other day I was walking back from my local super market, I came to a long stretch of path, quite wide with greenery on either side. Coming up from the other direction was a guy with quite a large dog. The guy looked respectable enough and to be honest big dogs don’t really bother me that much so I thought nothing of it.
As we got a little closer to passing each other I noticed this was a Rottweiler, it was a big strong and proud looking animal and looked quite happy to be plodding along by its owners side. Again I thought nothing of it as I spent a fair few hours around rescue Rottweiler’s as a kid and know first hand that the majority of them and big soppy softies!
Just as we went to pass each other the dog decided it wanted to come and say “hi” to me (There was no malice in its action, I’m pretty sure it was just being friendly), the owner noticed this and simply gave the dogs leash (lead) a gentle tug and said something along the lines of “come on” to the dog and we all went on our way.
As I was walking back to my place I started to think about the dog and its owner and that little scenario I just described. As I thought about it some more I realised was that the reality of the situation was if that dog really wanted to make its way to me, be it to just say hi or to cause me harm, there was very little myself or the owner could have done about it, due to the large and muscular nature of the animal. Yet all the owner had to so was give the littlest of tugs and a gentle word and this strong and proud animal continued on its way.
Again this got me thinking as to how this situation could come about, if this was a “wild” animal on a lead it wouldn’t of happened, so I mentioned it to a friend of mine who trains dogs for a living. He said its all to do with conditioning from when they are pups, basically when they are small, that gentle tug on the lead and the gentle word are much more forceful. He went on to explain that effectively this idea of you being bigger and stronger than them just kind of sticks in there head and this is why the behaviour I saw was possible.
All interesting stuff, you might be thinking, but what has this got to do with me?
Although we as human being obviously don’t get lead around on leash on a day to day basis, we are however held back by our own mental leashes.
As part of my job, I get to travel around a lot and go into a whole host of companies of differing size and ethos and the one common thing I can say every where I go is that I see is people being lead around by their own mental leashes, being held back by their own insecurities, fears and in some cases even laziness and lack of motivation. People stuck in a rut or stubborn in their ways. All these things have been built around experiences from the past, both positive and negative, just like a puppy is trained that its pointless to pull on its leash or that no means don’t do that.
People that allow themselves to be lead totally around by their leashes, generally speaking, are the ones who’s qualifications are from years ago, that haven’t been on a course or attended a user group / seminar or brought a book on their particular area of study for years. They end up stuck in the same role for the same company for umpteen years and get institutionalised.
All of these things can be a metaphorical leash around your neck being given a gentle tug, or the metaphorical firm word directing you away from what you want.
Now at this stage, so I don’t start to sound like a holier than thou tool, I’d like to point out that I’m far from perfect, I have a lot of my own “mental leashes” and over the last year or so I’ve been slowly trying to remove them, some more successfully than others. I still have quite a few but I try not to let them pull me around quite so much
So, what’s your leash?
My challenge to you all reading this now is to think about your leashes, what are the things that might be holding you back. Is it that little voice inside that says “cant” or maybe that fear you get when something new comes along?
Whatever they are, identifying them is the first step, and then pulling against them / removing them so you can approach that metaphorical hansom stranger and say “hi” without getting that tug around your neck
Anyway this was just something that’s been on my mind and I wanted to share it, I hope you’ve found it interesting. Please feel free to drop me any comments as I welcome all feedback